Learning from her Mistakes... and Successes

 

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I've recently had an epiphany.  I think it's been a long time in coming, but yesterday it really hit me.

Yesterday while talking to one of my girlfriends, I had the most humbling realization... we're all alike.  We were discussing our marriages... and what we hate and love.  I know, sounds kind of heartless, but I think this kind of blatant honesty is sooooo wonderful and really very healthy.  We were chatting about the issues we feel are at the top of our "complaint lists."  There were more, "Oh my gosh, me too!!" s and "We do that too!"s than I ever imagined possible!  Not only did I walk away from the conversation feeling like Kory and I are a very normal couple with VERY normal "problems" that every couple deals with, but with a whole new appreciation for those frank and honest chats that girlfriends share.  Without this 30 minutes of raw honesty, I may have continued to think Kory and I were never going to live to call our marriage a success... instead I realize that we are a very typical couple with very common and manageable obstacles and I think my friend would probably tell you that she was able to draw the same conclusion about her relationship.  (And I was even privy to a few hints and tips as to how to overcome these common, every day issues.)
I realized how essential my close girl friends are and how vital it is to share not only the wonderful times, but also the struggles - for their sake and mine... and more than anyone, for the sake of our husbands and marriages! 

So as much as I would like to think that we are so unique in our squabbles, I'm realizing that we're about as normal as the next couple. What a relief!  : ) 

PS. Watch Perfect Couple on Thursday nights.  We find it hilarious... because it is like we're watching ourselves on TV!